Gender

The umbrella term for my gender identity is nonbinary, meaning I don't fit into the gender binary. The specific term for my experience is agender, meaning I don't identify strongly with any gender. There are traits from multiple genders with which I identify, but I don't lean strongly in any direction.

Privilege-wise, I don't experience dysphoria, am perceived as a gender-nonconforming member of the sex I was assigned at birth, and have not experienced much harassment or violence for my gender expression. I don't identify as trans, but terms like "queer" and "genderqueer" are ones I'm beginning to apply to myself.

The pronouns that feel most accurate for me are they/them, but I have no issues with masculine or feminine pronouns when applied to me. I feel no differently about any of them.

Relatedly, I'm demisexual and grayromantic. Subjects of sex and gender don't hold much general interest for me, and I rarely discuss them except with people I'm close to. Obviously I support trans and queer liberation in all forms, but due to my differences I struggle to feel like I belong in trans- or queer-centered communities; My neurodivergence makes me struggle to feel like I belong anywhere, but that said, I feel more accepted in queer and trans spaces than any part of "mainstream" society.

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